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The patriarchy is ever pervasive in 2018

It is no secret I am a feminist. I’m even bold enough to add it as the tagline of this blog. As a warning sign to misogynists – readers beware – feminist content ahead. And the news recently has had many, many shocking stories indicating the patriarchy is alive and kicking in 2018.

Why am I so bold and outspoken? Because it is something I believe in, and moreover I have FU money allowing me to do just that.

Professional Sports

Well, this week the patriarchy has been present in professional sports in abundance – most noteworthy this week in tennis.

Serena

Despite being the greatest tennis player ever, Serena is demonstrating that life as a black woman is hard. She faces the intersection of racism and sexism and fights the angry black woman stereotype on an ongoing basis.

Henceforth, at the US open final this week Serena was given penalties for various tennis infractions by the umpire. But interestingly when male tennis players react in the same way, they did not get the same penalties.

Further compounding the umpire’s biases and behaviour, the media then doubled down and asked her the impact of her actions on her child. And again, in contrast, male tennis players did not face the same questions from the media.

And many male players of lesser stature have behaved exactly the same such as McEnroe, Djokovic, Murray, Nadal. Yet they did not face the same backlash as Serena.

While I am not saying her behaviour is perfect, I do believe we should treat everyone equally. If a white man can do something without an infraction, why can’t a black woman? Now we seem to have the white male rules, where the rules are flexible and can be bent, and the woman of colour rule, where they are rigidly enforced. And that is both racist and sexist.

Link: Serena Williams and the trope of the angry black woman

Alize

Still, on the subject of the US open, another female player Alize Cornet was penalised for quickly changing her top. Yet the men, such as Djokovic sat half-naked on the court for minutes. Women’s bodies are seen as something to be covered at all costs, whereas men’s bodies are allowed to be seen.

There does seem the be a theme of penalising women for actions that are perfectly acceptable for men in this sport lately.

Link: US Open apologises after Alize penalised

Politicians

Likewise, the patriarchy is also evident in politics in 2018.

Boris

The former home secretary and potential leadership challenger is another example of the patriarchy pervading.

His racist and sexist comments, such as those on burkas show how dated and out of touch his views are. And his personal life with multiple public affairs shows such a lack of respect for women. He is brazen enough to take a date out for a long Valentines lunch when he was meant to be working on Brexit – not to mention married.

He shows no loyalty, no dedication to the job and seems to be a slacker on the work front. Yet despite these, he is badged as the top leadership challenger and is respected by many conservatives.

Link: Boris branded a racist

The occupant of the White House

Ms ZiYouThere are no words to describe how much this occupant uses the patriarchy to oppress women.

He clearly only values women’s bodies as he trades in his wives for younger, fresher models and pursues multiple affairs. This is evident from describing his female children as hot and attaching value to their looks to the way he paid hush payments to women he had affairs with.

Despite his pussy grabbing tape, multiple accusations of misconduct the patriarchy stand by him and allow him to continue. Even the religious right seem comfortable with his behaviour.

TV & Radio

Guess what – the patriarchy is also present in the entertainment industry.

Holly

Holly Willoughby is a TV presenter who has been chosen to present a show I’m a Celebrity with another presenter, Declan Donnely. The show is three weeks long and films in a tropical jungle far away from the UK.

Hence a tabloid paper leads with an article on who will look after her kids for the time she is away? Interesting choice of headline, especially as Dec also has a baby, but there is no question of who will look after his kid? A clear patriarchal double standard applied here.

Childcare is the responsibility of both parents, yet in 2018 the patriarchy seems to think working mothers should be questioned publically about their childcare arrangement, which then presumably are up for scrutiny by everyone? Why don’t we treat fathers the way we treat mothers?

Link: Holly faces parental criticism whereas Dec doesn’t

QI

QI is a geeky and popular TV game-show in the UK, which used to be presented by Stephen Fry. Now Sandi Toksvig presents, and we learn she only gets paid 40% of his salary. Again the patriarchy is deciding that men are worth more than women.

Radio2

Not to be outdone, this week we learn more about BBC Radio 2. All the daytime shows were hosted by men for twenty years until 2018. Yes, one of the most popular, and publically funded no less, radio station employs men in all it’s on-air daytime roles.

Women were allowed graveyard and weekend shows. And women were employed as cover only, but never headlining their own show.

Link: After Chris Evans…

Politics Panel

For what must be the first time ever, a politics panel show features all women – and all experts in their fields. And the patriarchy suddenly cannot handle it.

Is Satire the cure?

Given all this pervasive masculinity and male supremacy – a little light relief is called for.

Henceforth, I will introduce you to my favourite parody twitter account @manwhohasitall.

Hence the benefit of FU money

The concept of FU money is often discussed in the personal finance world. I’d define FU money as having enough money to be able to say you f*ck you to something that doesn’t agree with your values – whether that’s a job or something else.

Furthermore, having enough money to keep yourself independent and true to your values is life-saving and affirming. I most definitely have FU money, hence I can be vocal in everyday life about my beliefs and call out any concerns.

Moreover, I need to do this as other women cannot. Most people need their jobs and need to toe the line to keep them. The gender pay gap pervades and most women do not get paid as much as me. My version of feminism involves bringing everyone up with me especially those who face both racism and sexism.

Nowadays I can call out the patriarchal society and challenge people to change. I often make people uncomfortable saying things like Would you say that if she was a middle-aged man? and What do her kids have to do with it?

Over to you

  • What are your thoughts?
  • Do you think the patriarchy is alive and kicking in 2018?
  • What examples do you have?
  • What benefits do you have from FU money?
  • Do you challenge things you do not agree with?

Thank you for reading – please leave a comment below and join in the conversation. You can also connect on Twitter or contact me privately.

 

31 comments on “The patriarchy is ever pervasive in 2018

  1. Hi Ms Zi You, hope you’re well. You know I agree with underlying message, but I don’t agree with some of the examples you cite.

    I’ll just talk about the tennis ones.

    The Serena thing has nothing to do with sexism. It is incredibly disappointing to see so much incorrect or misleading stuff being put out there. Serena broke the cardinal rule of tennis: do not get three violations. Act like an idiot once – fine (unless you hit the umpire with a ball to the face). Act like an idiot twice – fine. Act like an idiot three times – bad.

    She committed court violations three times, none are up for debate. The first, her coach was trying to coach her from the stands (he also admitted as such, you might argue it’s a silly rule to punish a player for someone else’s behaviour, I agree, but it’s the rules). The second, she smashed her racket – an automatic racket violation. The third she dissented at the umpire calling him a ‘thief’ – again a clear violation.

    Trouble is, she lost her cool about the coaching violation, and she wouldn’t let it go. Serena is usually very good at match management, it was very unusual behaviour. But the umpire did nothing wrong, he correctly applied the rules. In fact, I’m incredibly disappointed because this whole nonsense has overshadowed, what should be, a very happy occasion for Naomi Osaka winning her first slam.

    This wasn’t a sexism thing. During the US Open, I watched many players get dinged with racket violations. I also saw a few players get warned for coaching violations too.

    The Alize Cornet thing is more difficult. I didn’t watch the match, so I don’t have all the context. The issue is not that she changed shirt, it’s that she changed shirt whilst on court. Changing shirts during change over is fine. I don’t believe there is specific rule about changing attire during a game. And I think the US Open has said the umpire was wrong to give a warning. I imagine, the umpire gave a warning because they felt that swapping her shirt around was potentially unsporting (putting off the opponent) or caused a time violation. I say it’s more difficult because umpires have been told to be much stricter on time violations. They’ve crept into the sport and I think a lot of players do it to throw the opposition. That doesn’t appear, from what I have read, to be the case with Ms Cornet, but I don’t know the whole context of the match. Either way, the comparisons to Djokovic are disingenuous.

    If I had a lesson from all that, it’s: don’t trust the news to explain to you the real situation.

    [I also don’t agree on the Sandi Toksvig thing, but I’ve written enough]

    1. Hey YFG – thanks for sharing your opinions.

      And sadly you have reinforced my point – that patriarchy has allowed men to set rules and hold women to them, yet let men break them all the time without consequences.

      Do you ever wonder why more people of colour are arrested? Why our jail population does not mirror the general population?

  2. I understand and agree with your underlying point but this just doesn’t happen in tennis. That’s all I’m saying.

    Take Boris as an example. He is an odious human being. This is a real problem, he is seen as the natural leader for the ruling political party in the UK. He has been found time and time again to engage in disgusting behaviour towards women (and ethnic minorities).

    By calling out ‘manufactured’ issues rather than the real ones that affect millions of people, we do a huge disservice to combating the real challenges in ensuring fairness in society.

    We have to call the issues when they are there, not when we imagine them to be there.

    1. With all due respect, white men telling women of colour their issues are not real is the problem. You do not get to decide how others feel and what they care about.

      For what it’s worth, Bille Jean, Andy Roderick, the WTA, the USTA, Victoria Azarenka, Sue Barker all say Serena had a point.

  3. I have to say I agree with young fi guy on this one. Macenroe had plenty of fines and points deducted over his career when he went too far and the 3 strikes and your out is a perfectly valid point on this. I personally think this would have applied male or female black or white. Whether this is an example or not there are definitely times when people play the race or sexism card when it’s not warranted and to pretend otherwise is disingenuous. Serena saying its because she’s a woman does not automatically make it so.

    Also re the radio 2 presenters doesn’t Jo whiley presents the drive time show at the same time as Simon mayo? . Unsure on whether there is a pay difference admittedly

    That said There’s a definite gender pay gap in most industries and the BBC have held their hands up on this but the issue is far more complex than headlines make out and I personally think making the BBC publish figures of pay alone with no context behind them (hours worked numbers of shows worked on etc) simply muddies the waters around what is a very definite genuine issue. That said boundaries need to be pushed and have in many areas (lgbt rights for example) and sometimes things have to go too far the other way for a sensible way forward to be found.

    The movement to get rid of gender in children is one such area for me though I totally get and support the idea of not pigeon holing children early into certain pre defined roles and expectations I just don’t think wearing a t shirt with a truck on it is going to prevent my child (if I had one) from exploring his sexuality when he’s mature enough emotionally to deal with this concept. Others may disagree I’m sure.

    Re Qi for instance Was Stephen fry always paid the same or did it build up as his profile was raised along with viewing figures?? Certainly I’d argue Stephen fry is a more household name than sandy accepting bake off has definitely raised her profile. I certainly don’t watch as much as I used to as I find her annoying. Not because she’s a woman but because I find her annoying. I’ve also always thought it a bit weird and complicated to try and apply standard job banding to a profession like showbiz its so subjective.

    That’s a very long winded and winding way of saying I agree with the sentiment and the message but feel the whole topic is complicated!

    Lighting touch paper… Standing well back

    1. Hey FBA – damn, have found something where we disagree.

      It is a complicated topic and I am glad we are discussing it more and more. And challenging whether gender and racial stereotypes come into how we view people and their actions.

  4. Which woman of colour? The black multiple-time Grand Slam champion who had broken the rules or the half-Japanese half-Haitian upcoming tennis star in her first Grand Slam final?

    I’m not saying Serena doesn’t have a point, I even acknowledged in my first comment that the rule on coaching is a bit silly. Could the umpire have handled things more delicately? Sure, many umpires do because they understand the high stakes at play. But on the other hand that would have been unfair to Osaka as her opponent has clearly, unequivocally broken the rules.

    Numerous players both men and women of various nationalities broke the rules during the tournament and were punished for doing so. This isn’t about sexism or racism. This is specific issue in tennis that could do with a resolution. Making it into something it is not is disingenuous.

  5. I cannot debate the tennis as I didn’t watch the match and don’t intend to. I just wanted to say Ms ZiYou THANK YOU for speaking out loudly and creating a debate. As a woman I am not great at challenging the patriarchy although I have seen less of it in my career than perhaps I would if I have been in industry or a high flyer.

    I do however have many lively conversations with the husband about women on the front line of armed forces (he’s ex-forces). I say if she can pass the fitness test and put up with the sh*t that happens then let her. Hubby is not so sure (i.e. against) for reasons that do not wash with me. Sexual attraction? Don’t care. Sexual assault if captured? Same for men, she knows what she’s getting into. Wash facilities? Whatever!

    1. Totally agree with this for what it’s worth 😉 if you can pass the fitness test and won’t put your fellow soldiers lives at risk what’s the issue. Same with the whole homosexual debate. How that can possibly matter is beyond me

    2. Hi Tuppeny – thanks for reading and commenting.

      I obviously feel we should let women serve on the front line if they are brave enough to want to and pass all the tests. More and more research is indicating that mixed-sex teams deliver better results all around from the boardroom to the battlefield.

  6. As a tennis fan and a Serena fan, I was disappointed at her behaviour which wasn’t pleasant to see, but believe that she was treated differently. Differently because she was a woman? What other reason was there? I think her outrage about being coached was because although her coach admitted the offence, she did not see his gestures so according to her, she did not cheat as she didn’t see what he was trying to do. Her coach has to take some of the blame for this.

    I’ve witnessed matches when men have not been given violations for swearing at or calling the umpire names, so it does appear that it’s different rules for men and women. I don’t have facts, it’s not like I keep tabs of these things when I watch my tennis!

    The changing of shirts thing is sexist as male tennis players can sit and bask shirtless to cool off, yet Cornet was penalised for changing in 10 seconds. The penalty was judged to be an error afterwards but one wonders if that put her off her stride, leading to her losing her match.

    Although I don’t consider that I’ve been directly affected (after all, I’ve never known what my male colleagues earned so can’t comment personally on gender pay gap), I’ve witnessed patriarchy at work. Less so at the last place I worked at, where for a long time, most members of the leadership team were female although when the heads were rolling during the 2008 financial crash, it was ‘jobs for the boys’ at middle management level and nearly all the ones that went were women.

    At my current place of work, the way some of the women are talked down to is often hidden in jokes and humour, so hard for them to take offence without coming across as ‘miserable’ or ‘boring’, but I can see that sometimes, they’re not happy with what’s been said. Where I’ve been able to, I’ve jumped in to support them but it’s not always easy to do that.

    1. The problem is with some of this that offence is subjective. We see the same with comedy now

      There are comments in our office by both men and women to each other that are made purely in jest and taken as such fortunately but someone could very easily take offence and report it which is a bit sad really . I for one if anything I said caused an issue would be mortified and like the opportunity to simply apologise and, knowing where the boundaries are keep to that side going forward but some are never given that opportunity.

      What I am trying to say is that systemic and systematic harassment is different from a poorly chosen off the cuff comment as a one off

      I’m not in the least trying to say that some of the oppression or sexual harassment that goes on can be excused or isn’t real it can’t and it is and it’s great that the debate is being brought out in to the light of day but that sadly because of these issues you find yourself being far more guarded. It will be a sad grey world if because of a few bad apples people can’t have a joke at work for fear of causing offence and being prosecuted

      1. Hear what you’re saying FBA – I enjoy good banter and give it back just as well. Agree that some do take offence too easily over innocent remarks but the workplace is a different place now, there should be fewer such ‘innocent remarks’. At the last place I worked at, we called the guys in their 50s ‘dinosaurs’, politically incorrect a lot of the time (with everyone, not just women), unlikely to change but mostly harmless.

        In my current place of work with a much younger workforce (average age under 30), it’s a bigger deal when there’s bias as they should know better as that’s the society they’ve grown up in, unlike the ‘dinosaurs’.

        However, what I was talking about isn’t banter, it’s more when a woman is talked over or ignored, or on one occasion, pretty much shouted down by a guy with a loud voice and the senior guy then jokingly half-apologised for the raised voice and of course, her opinion was ignored and forgotten. Had the woman been a man of the same professional standing, there’s no way that would have happened.

        Funny, when I mentioned the incident to my girlfriends, they all knew exactly what I was talking about as they would have witnessed similar. It’s hard explaining it to guys as it’s not easy to relate to.

    2. Hi Weenie – agree Serena acts like an entitled a**hole sometimes – and that match was no exception. But no more of an a**hole than the others like McEnroe, Murray, Djokovic etc.

      And yes – I don’t think I’m impacted by the gender pay gap now (actually I think I earn more than most of the men – but I am more willing to work flexibility). I’m pretty sure I have been in the past. Not always in the direct different pay for same job way, but more in the given fewer opportunities that then led to evidence for a pay rise.

      That is shocking that mainly men were retained and women let go in the crash – scary times and one where especially I guess you have no proof.

      I know all about those sort of jokes and humour and how demoralising they can be. When they are people on the same level I am quite ballsy and comment. But I do have problems e.g. when it’s my bosses boss who can come across as a sexist a**hole and lots of his comments are not mean spirited but so inappropriate given his position. For instance for some reason he was singing Simon and Garfunkle and then labelled someone who was late for his call a Mrs Robinson?? WTF?

  7. Thanks weenie and ms zi you it’s good we can debate nuances on this type of thing without resorting to saying the other is wrong. I respect and agree with your overall message even if we debate the examples.. To bring a bit of balance I can see the (unconscious I think ) bias in the headlines re Holly etc. This type of thing is deep rooted.

    For what it’s worth in my social group with the exception of myself all the women earn more than the guys.

  8. Oops posted before finishing .It was interesting seeing these biases as the guy in one couple actually went down to 4 days a week at the age of 35,alot in the group both women and men were horrified but for them it makes sense. He’s not career orientated they live below their means and he uses that day for his hobbies leaving the weekends for couples time I totally agree and am envious of that

  9. I’ll stay out of this one. I only caught a bit of Serena on the news.
    Anyway, did you tell me about Ali Wong? She is an awesome comic. Thanks for that.

  10. Yikes, some of these comments. Want to lift up and support you this one – 2018 is past time to have to be dealing with this BS. And manwhohasitall is a freaking fabulous Twitter account. Sometimes turning something on its head makes it all the more obvious that things are not equal.

  11. Yes! I always wonder why society works so hard to deny these imbalances, they surround us. I guess with each angle / life experience you have there is a different view point.
    I’ve started using that parody account in my head, if something doesn’t flip well between genders I try to avoid and rewire. Works the same for when I see it in others, the exact benefit of FU money is sometimes being able to not give an F about conforming or worrying what others think.
    I think your writing is wonderful, keep it up, very inspiring 🙂

  12. Mega late to the party here Ms ZiYou, but really enjoyed reading the post and the subsequent hot debate in the comments!

    I can see both sides of the argument to be honest. Obviously I agree with equal rights for all as stated on our recent podcast, but also do get annoyed where it seems there are strawman/woman 😉 set up just to cause outrage.

    I believe the Holly article in the tabloid was such a case for example, I am almost certain that 95%+ of normal human beings who saw that headline just though “rubbish clickbait” at best or maybe read a few lines, got a little outraged, and went on with their day at worst. Unfortunately there will be a small %age of the population that are stuck in the 1950s who probably agreed with it… they are almost certainly all of an older generation and will be irrelevant or dead in 20 years so is it really worth giving that sort of thing even more exposure by going on about it? I think the tabloid in question undoubtably just wants eyeballs and clicks, and so “calling it out” people are just furthering their cause. I get it… it’s a double edged sword, you can’t expose the initial infraction without inherently drawing attention to the article in question… a tough one!

    Also I think people become a bit numb to issues if there is too much mud slinging going on from both sides, and people just end up not actually caring. So again we need to be careful on what issues to focus on IMO. It’s a bit like the boy/girl who cried wolf, if too much stuff gets called sexist, and some of it is on subjective grounds at best, then the REAL issues that ARE important start to get less impact when they are called out. people just tune out or even worse start to get fed up with it and rally against the original point (honestly I think this is one of the contributing factors of things like Trump being allowed to “happen”!).

    I think certain things are better off best ignored and let’s focus on the bigger issues such as Boris and Trump who are surely far bigger fish to fry.

    I would finally like to get your perspective on a comment you made above:

    “With all due respect, white men telling women of colour their issues are not real is the problem. You do not get to decide how others feel and what they care about.”

    Now ignoring the colour part for a second I am going to take the liberty of assuming you also hold the same opinion if it were just “men telling women their issues”…?

    What about the women who disagree with your points of view?
    Are they allowed to speak up or do they just have to toe your particular brand of feminism?

    I say this because my sister, who is a very strong and independent woman, finds a lot of the feminist and gender stuff a bit of a turn off (I’m putting this politely, I’ve heard many a strong rant on the subjects – for example the de-gendering of children’s clothes/toys etc…!). As I guess you would just say she’s been brainwashed by the patriarchy right? 😉

    Jokes aside, genuinely interested on your thoughts on that area of this interesting debate!

    Cheers

    1. Hey TFS, lovely to hear your thoughts.

      So here are some thoughts – I’m going to take a punt that you, like me are a well educated, employed middle-class late thirty-something. As such we live in a bubble were most people we interact with are also similar and capable of creative thinking. So while we may have thought that Holly article was trash, our middle class educated bubble is not representative of the whole population. Given the circulation of The Sun, The Sport, The Star and The Daily Mail I highly doubt 95% of people agreed with us. Adults are free to read what they want, but spare a thought for their children seeing these article before there critical thinking skills are developed.

      I don’t think calling out offence is mudslinging in any way whatsoever. Honestly, I have no idea why you would think that saying you offend me and perpetuate stereotypes could be called mudslinging. Not to mention crying wolf??? Erm, the patrairchy is a wolf and I do wonder sometimes how bad things have to be before women are allowed to be offended. I like to think we are past the sticks and stones days of our youth.

      And the patriarchy is a real issue – it is the societal construct that has allowed Trump and Boris to thrive and allows them to be perceived differently to their rivals, say Hillary and Diane Abbott who are good comparisons. In my opinion, patriarchy is the REAL issue, and it’s allowing a strongman dictator culture to spread around the world.

      Yes, you are obviously allowed to disagree – but what I would say is that most people who disagree are people who aren’t impacted. By that I mean they are men, or women who appreciate being released from breadwinning, appreciate the beauty standards and enjoy caregiving.

      And I find more and more women who were unphased and had no strong opinions when they were younger, suddenly become more aware when the limitations of patriarchy directly impact them. And yes, your sister is entitled to her views, gendered clothes aren’t the problem per say, until they start labelling boys as Future Boss and daughters as Future Brides.

      1. I’ve literally just written a massive reply and hit submit and it’s been lost due to no internet on train and am now basically crying haha!!!

        I’m going to write up some more thoughts and expand on it and publish in a blog post I think instead.

        Thanks for getting me to think about this stuff, it’s great to be able to crystalize your own thoughts on it and get it down in writing!

        I’m also going to write up a post on the Environmentalism question, as I feel I really fumbled that one during our podcast, so want to clarify my viewpoints on that one as well.

        Cheers again!

      2. OK gonna have another bite at the cherry here before writing up my thoughts first, will try to be a bit more bullet point this time though (and save comment before posting in case it gets lost again haha)

        – Good points re:demographics and children, however I still believe the overwhelming majority would disagree with the sentiment of that article. I did a quick google and looks like it was the Mirror not the DM… correct? – The DM actually posted an article showing the other side of the story i.e. a lot of people slamming the original article, which kind of backs up my point really. I even dared read the comments and all the top rated are in support and downrated are the ones who agreed with the original premise of the Mirror article. My point is that this sort of thing, while offensive and sexist, is in the large minority nowadays IMO of course, me living in a bubble or not, I know plenty of “salt of the earth working class people” from school and none of them hold these views nowadays. When the boomer generation die out you just won’t really hear of this sort of thing anymore IMO, the battle has been won here and it’s time to move onto bigger issues.

        – Mudslinging – my bad for using a stupid term. I didn’t really mean it like that. With regards to crying wolf I am not saying that it hasn’t offended you and you are of course well within your rights to call things out as you see fit. But I feel like you are diluting your core message, which is REALLY important, with stupid stuff about a tennis match, or an over paid TV presenter. Look… I am someone in support of the general message you are putting out here and in I’ll be honest and say that sort of thing annoys me, so if you give someone who is on the fence or initially in opposition of your points of view even the slightest sniff of being able to throw your arguments out – they are going to take that.

        “That Serena stuff was a load of rubbish* so I’m not listening to anything else she has to say”

        *By this I mean questionable/subjective at best.

        You are at risk of people throwing the baby out with the bathwater here, that’s all I am saying.

        To reiterate my underlying point is this:
        Talk to me about the horrendous inequality (on a global and national scale), women being trafficked, abused and the like, and the misogynist views/actions of the people in charge of our nations, and I’m listening.

        Talk to me about a millionaire tennis player having an on court spat, and an overpaid TV celeb, and I couldn’t give two hoots about it.

        I can’t imagine you think the two types of issue are of the same importance either, but then again you have included them all in this article, and you’ve put the Tennis one at the top, so it would be great to hear your views it.

        Two last quick points:

        “By that I mean they are men, or women who appreciate being released from breadwinning, appreciate the beauty standards and enjoy caregiving.” – I think that is a pretty generous assumption to make!

        Finally… what is wrong with a boy wearing a T-Shirt with “Future Boss” on it, as long as girls are allowed to wear one too (which of course, they are)? (Again, this is another non-issue that should be ignored and just riles the huge percentage of the population up rather than getting them on your side)

        As always, Cheers 🙂

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